Posts by Jill

So, Your Spouse is Gay.

Oh, hi. Anyone still reading? It’s been a while. A year and a half, actually, since I announced the end of my marriage. When the news came out, I was bombarded with messages from fellow gay spouses all around the world. The letters of support were easy to respond to, and so very much appreciated.…

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The Gift of Disconnecting

It’s been a rough several months; hell, it’s been a rough several years. So, with the kids happily away at overnight camp and no husband or dog at home anymore to keep company or take care of, I settled on the perfect gift to myself: A week away all about me and only me. I arrived…

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Some Personal News…

Yesterday, Jeff and I told our children that we are divorcing, after more than 17 years of marriage and 23 years of togetherness. We also told them that the impetus for the divorce is the fact that Jeff is gay. Without getting into too much personal detail, this is a reality which we have faced…

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Hell Yes, I’m With Her. Here’s Why.

Support your husband’s dreams and follow his lead, even if it takes you to a place — and a life — far from everything you’ve worked toward. Take his last name, so that people in your community view him with more respect and authority. Cut and style your hair to better fit the mold of…

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How Blogging Has Changed Since 2008

Today marks eight years since I started blogging, which is pretty much a million years in internet time. Of course, much changes in a million years… Then: You started a free blog on Blogger and hit publish. Now: You pay for a url. You pay a designer to make you a custom design on WordPress. You pay more…

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Everything I Learned About Writing A Book (The Hard Way)

I get more questions about writing a book than anything else these days, so it seemed to make sense to put everything I’ve learned out there for anyone who’s interested. I would never claim to know everything about the publishing process and there are a lot of things that I can’t teach you. Finding an agent, for example.…

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Scary Mommy 2.0

For the last seven years, my goal has been to make Scary Mommy a destination for parents seeking support, camaraderie, information, and, of course, a healthy dose of levity. I’ve strived to give the site an authentic and relatable voice, where moms, dads, grandparents and other people on the periphery of parenthood can feel like…

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Writing a Book is Like Having a Baby

Last week, it dawned on me that it had been exactly nine months since I signed my book deal. Nine months of stress and excitement and worry and exuberance and everything in between. It seemed perfectly fitting that the gestation period so closely echoed my pregnancies, since the book really has become my fourth child.…

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Book Tour Failure

I was so focused on not flashing my Spanx on the Today Show and all of the other events during the day, that I completely neglected to promote that I had a reading at Barnes and Noble at 7PM. At all. We arrived at 6:45 and the room was empty. Like, completely empty. Literally. When…

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Confessions of a Scary Mommy Pub Day

What a day!!! I’m writing this from the hotel where I have exactly one hour of downtime, but wanted to share some pictures and videos from Today… First up, the clip from my interview with Ann Curry and Huffington Post’s Lisa Belkin. Next up, my interview with Kathie Lee Gifford and Billy Ray Cyrus, who…

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Shameless

I’ve long acknowledged that having children was the end of any sense of modesty for me. Shitting on the delivery table? Yup, that put the kabbash on that. Writing a book, however, brought me to a whole new level. I am now completely and utterly shameless. This, my friends, is how I now spend my days… How…

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Gone Crazy

I ran into an acquaintance at school the other day. Barely slowing down our respective paces in the hallway, she quickly noted, “the book’s coming out soon — excited!?” “Yes!” I’m sure she expected to hear. “I’m super excited,” as we each made our way towards the parking lot. Of course I would be excited…

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A Scene

HOME. SURROUNDED BY WET POOL TOWELS, AN OVERFLOWING SINK OF DIRTY DISHES AND MASS CHAOS. Lily, screaming at the top of her lungs for an unknown reason. Evan, naked, running circles around the house chanting “I have a big booty” repeatedly. Ben, wearing 6 pairs of socks, attempting to skate across the family room floor.…

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